Relief. Release. Fear. Trembling. That’s what I feel today as I release How Shall We Love?, a coming of age/contemporary romance novel.
I remember the conversation distinctly. I told a dear friend of mine that I’d never write about homosexuality. I just wasn’t going there. Why not? Frankly, it was way too divisive of a subject.
From the moment those words tumbled out of my mouth, I knew I’d eventually write about it.
Except, when I did, it was not like anything I ever considered.
The reason I didn’t want to touch this divisive subject is because both those in the homosexual community and those who believe that homosexuality is wrong have blocked their ears and refused to listen. The conversation on the national scale looks like this:
Two people facing one another, fingers in their ears, shouting at one another.
So I decided, in my novel, to take it down to the personal, to the ins and outs of family experience where there’s pain, where there’s disappointment, where there’s admiration, safety and joy, where people wrestle with unforgiveness and loathing. Family is another place where you’ll often find two people facing one another, screaming to be understood, not often listening.
I decided to show this story from the springboard of family, from the perspective of a girl who’s eager to explore and figure out her world.
This story is from the perspective of a child who learns her father, her hero, has left her mother so he can be in a relationship with a man.
It’s always easy to talk about something if it’s out there, if it’s not up close and personal. When it’s family, it’s hard to ignore.
This one subject has torn apart families from coast to coast.
Maybe, like the main character Cornelia, it’s time to stop the shouting and ask, “How Shall We Love?”
It may hurt. I’ve been very hurt while seeking the answer to this question over this very subject.
But I’m thankful for the Holy Spirit. His fruit is love. He shows me how. He’s the One who convicts people of sin—I’m not.
And I’m thankful I had a chance to write these characters who always prodded me to seek the answer.
Within the pages of this book you’ll find parts that make you laugh, some that make you cry, scenes that will make you angry, and some that are full of endearing romance. It may not leave you on any middle ground, but I hope this story helps you like it’s helped me.